I wanted to do one of those snazzy, big-reveal type deals where one minute the site is as it was and the next it’s OMG COMPLETELY DIFFERENT and everything is exactly where it belongs. Sort of like renovating a house without the neighbors ever catching a glimpse of the rubble.
But this is me we’re talking about.
It’ll take some time for reality to catch up to my vision. For instance, those buttons in the sidebar on the far right? You ought to be able to click on them to access the feature posts they represent, but you can’t … yet.
Welcome to my Work-In-Progress!
Sounds exciting! I have been going through Dissociative Living’s posts because I’ve been dealing with an increase of dissociative symptoms recently and I need something/one to reassure me I’m not crazy. The changes to this blog sound like they’re going to be exciting!!
Speaking of Dissociative Living … http://dontcallmesybil.com/dissociative-living-blog-archive/
I don’t know if that’s helpful to you or not, but my goal with DCMS is to get all the content/info/what-have-you (such as it is) into one centralized location. Anyway, the link to the DL Archive is at the top of the Home Page.
Also: you’re not crazy.
Thanks for the link! I like what you’ve done to the place so far
I approve of the WP theme
The last time I was here I clicked on something I can’t find this time and it took me somewhere that you were posting for a job that you did. I asked about a co-operative effort to do what you were doing here, you never answered that post but the site wasn’t one that you post to anymore so I am asking again here. I have different info but you seem to have a better voice to do it. I am very interested in what you think. Please contact me.
Oh, hmm. Do you mean Dissociative Living, the blog I used to write for HealthyPlace.com? If so, you can click on “Dissociative Living Blog Archive” at the top of the page and it will take you to a page with links to the blog and each individual post. http://dontcallmesybil.com/dissociative-living-blog-archive/
I don’t think they have a blogger covering dissociative disorders right now. If you’re interested, just send them an email! http://www.healthyplace.com/how-to-contact-us/form/1-healthyplace-contact-form/
Their bloggers generally publish 350-500 word articles, twice a week. For some writers that takes a lot of work, but it’s feasible. For me, it’s extraordinarily difficult to accomplish and my health suffered as a result of trying to keep up that pace. I quit, then went back when I when I was healthier and quickly realized I was headed right back down that same, unhealthy path and quit again for good. I’m a perfectionist … most of the material I write is never published because of that. I prefer it that way, but that’s why frequent blogging is not for me. So if you pursue it, I hope you can take it far less seriously than I do – for the sake of your health.
As for a voice … writing regularly is the best way to develop your own unique voice. So if that’s all that’s holding you back, I say jump in with both feet and just do it!
The links you gave in your answers to peoples posts on Don’t mind the rubble were incredible. Thank you.
Because of them I feel such a huge number of things I would have to list them to make sense of them all. ANGER is at the top of that list!
Yes, I had been to your site that you sent the link for in THIS answer and thought i had left a post but couldn’t find it…guess that is why you never answered. I could have gotten distracted and never hit reply.
I went through most of my integration in 2005 and at that time found NOTHING useful on the web and little useful from therapists that I was encountering. I have never had a DID diagnoses and that is part of my anger.
EVERYTHING I read says that is exactly what I had in-spite of their insistence that I didn’t. The link to Sidran gave a post about not being afraid of integration that floored me. She is clearly the same age as I and was going through what I was going through BUT she was correctly diagnosed and helped and I wasn’t … it was one thing to except that they just didn’t know then what they know now…but knowing that it was out there, and I just didn’t get it is hard for me to digest at this moment.
So much of the truth that I fought hard to learn on my own she was taught by her own therapist. She had acceptance and guidance that I didn’t get. They just wanted me on medication… medication I couldn’t afford and that totally dismissed the cause of my problems, repeated trauma.
Most all of my “therapist” said I needed to go on disability and expected me to just accept being medicated for the rest of my life. ‘I would never be able to hold down a job or live normally’.
I have spent years writing a book feeling like it needed to be written and most of it is here. When I couldn’t find info on the web, I turned to books and I guess I never looked that hard again. I have found support groups but not the sites you gave. Now I can let it go.
I do have one huge issue with what I am reading. They still haven’t recognized the cause of the original separation as brain damage. It isn’t a decision to avoid the traumatic event. And the one thing I got in all the brain study I did that hasn’t hit home is that DID is brain development related.
Once people get that the picture is complete and shouldn’t be as threatening. It’s not a mental illness…it’s brain damage. We just need time to heal.
Oh, I see. If you posted the comment on my Dissociative Living blog that’s why I never replied … I don’t write that blog anymore so I no longer receive/approve/reply to comments left there.
I can understand your anger. I think I’d feel exactly the same way.
You can self-publish that book, you know. Just a thought.
I don’t think I’d call this brain damage, although I can certainly understand why you do. And perhaps in time we’ll discover that that’s precisely what it is. Or at least that it’s part of the picture. Because – and I think this is key – Dissociative Identity Disorder, like most maladies (mental and otherwise) is caused by a host of things both internal and external that come together at just the right times, in just the right places. Mental illness and brain damage aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.
Tell me to bug off if you don’t want to be bothered and I will not ask again…but I think our sum would be better and more effective then either of our parts.
I truly believe that if you go here … http://alternatesourcesoflight.wordpress.com/
and read beyond the first post you would find good info that you might be able to turn into something people outside just US would use to understand DID better.
I really am looking for someone as clear thinking and knowledgeable as you are to kick these ideas around with.
I consider this published. Not complete but it is out there. I’m not looking to be noticed. Like you I truly want someone to be helped by the info I had to fight hard and long to get. This is just not written in such a way that anyone WANTS to read it.
This is just not written in such a way that anyone WANTS to read it.\
I respectfully disagree. I find your work compelling. You write directly and with clarity. No, I think you’re good at this. And I further think the “DID community” needs your voice.
I’m working on creating a blogroll … something I haven’t had as of yet. I’m going to add your blog. I think what you have to say is important; keep saying it.
Thank you for your support. I am working on ways to make the information more usable like maybe a column of questions off to one side with links to the best pages to answer them. Really do enjoy your way of writing and think its much better though. More chatty and less personally threatening. Wish I could work that out.