Of the four blog posts I published this month, three were about blogging itself. That’s called metablogging; and I do it a lot (more on that later). This month I was bitching about Dissociative Identity Disorder therapists doing it wrong and worrying about how to expand on that without upsetting readers.
Now that I’ve resolved the latter (thanks for your help, guys) I figure I should get more specific about that whole YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG!!!! thing.
After all, some of you are actually interested!
I’ve been struggling for quite a while to find something that works for me in dealing with my DID, and I feel like I’m tilting at windmills while running in circles. So I’d be really interested to hear more specifically what problems you see in DID conventional wisdom. – weordmyndum
I echo this. I would be interested in hearing more from you on this matter. I certainly am not one to be chained to knowledge by “experts”. And especially my therapist as he is certainly not an expert. Our work today is very individualised. We don’t have no big wigs telling us how to do it! Can we hear more from you? – Bourbon
I can’t guarantee that you won’t wish you hadn’t asked, but I’m happy to say yes! And though I’ll try my best to discuss this topic in a balanced way, it’s unlikely that I’ll succeed. I can, however, promise transparency. There’s a lot of ground to cover, so it’ll have to publish as a series. Look for the first installment this week.
I posted this on Facebook with my readers in mind:
I guess I think anyone in treatment (whatever that means to you) for a complex dissociative disorder is actively in the process of learning who they are beyond their pain. And so it seemed worth saying that no matter how weak this process may make you think you are, remember that self-discovery takes more courage than survival.
But then again, maybe courage doesn’t have much to do with it….
Dan Kline is in that distinctly challenging period after a Dissociative Identity Disorder diagnosis where you’re suddenly more aware of your own pathology (diagnosis is often the first step in the integrative process). It’s a messy time for most people but I’m confident Dan will thrive as a result of it. Why?
- He’s pissed off.
- He asks questions.
- He’s willing to tolerate ambiguity.
Together, those three things are a potent recipe for self-discovery. And I love the way Bilal Ghandour words number 3: The willingness to be perplexed.
Reader Ayelet adds in a fourth ingredient, saying, ” … support so you know you’re not delusional.” Genuine validation can be surprisingly healing, but her comment reminded me of something else that’s an asset to anyone dedicated to becoming more of who they truly are: a sense of humor. (Ayelet has boatloads of it.)
What do you think? What does it take to find out who you are beyond your pain?
One More Thing …
I’m going to work on the site design and structure for a while. Think months. In that process I anticipate editing already published posts to change how much of the content appears on the front page. If you subscribe to DCMS, you might get notices when I do those edits. Please let me know if that’s the case so I can rethink things. I don’t want my site revamp to end up clogging up my readers’ feeds.