I’ve read a lot of coverage on the new TSA searches; all of it is distressing. But this video in particular left me reeling.
WARNING: This video contains footage of a 3-year-old girl crying and screaming, “Stop touching me,” while her mother holds her and a TSA agent forcibly gropes her. Watch with care.
The new security guidelines are a problem for me on their own. This video, however, has something the other videos I’ve seen and articles I’ve read don’t: a parent helping the agent.
I See Government & Parent Approved Assault
To be clear, I feel no judgment at all toward this mother. This must have been painful for her, too. If I felt I had no choice but to hold my child and make him submit to that kind of treatment I would be devastated. No parent should ever be put in a situation like this.
Even so, it’s the mother – watching, and even helping while her daughter screams for it to stop – that overwhelms me with emotion. My internal reaction to watching this is obviously more about my history than this family’s experience. I hope, therefore, that my emotional response is so out of proportion to the incident that I, a stranger, am more moved by it than the family is. I hope my perception is so skewed that what looks to me like legally sanctioned, parent enabled sexual assault of a child is nothing of the sort. I hope that little girl and her mother weren’t hurt, but merely inconvenienced.
I been silent so long now it’s gonna roar out of me like floodwaters and you think this guy telling this is ranting and raving my God; you think this is too horrible to have really happened, this is too awful to be the truth! But, please. It’s still hard for me to have a clear mind thinking on it. But it’s the truth even if it didn’t happen. – One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, Ken Kesey
I Don’t Always See Things Accurately
It seems most people with Dissociative Identity Disorder also have Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). I’m no different. I know my past experiences honed and sharpened my capacity to both recognize danger and discern “upset” from “traumatized.” But I also know that PTSD distorts my ability to see some things for what they are. So rather than jump to conclusions about what I saw in the video, I’m focusing instead on my own surprisingly intense reaction to it. Whatever this was or was not, I am acutely disturbed by it.
In the video I see a mother helping someone sexually assault her little girl. That’s the truth. Even if it didn’t happen.